Showing posts with label autism communication. Show all posts
Showing posts with label autism communication. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 5, 2019

Follow my 'blogging' on Facebook



Hello folks.

It has been quite a while since I have added any posts to this blog. I set up, some time ago, a page on Facebook to continue on sharing articles, news and stories relevant to autism.

https://www.facebook.com/autismauthorartist/ NOTE: This page is being reconstructed

So, this blog will stay up and I may add the occasional post here. 

A huge thankyou to the folks who have followed this blog in the past. I trully appreciate you finding my posts of interest.

Hope to see you over on my FB page ;)  Cheers, Louise.

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Farewell Donna Williams [Polly Samuel] 1963 -2017

photo - courtesy of donnawilliams.net

It was with heartfelt sadness that we learnt of Donna's passing recently.

Professionally, Donna was an inspiration and amazingly talented woman. Her devotion to advocacy for the Autism communities was expressed passionately, creativity and with a wonderful zest. The times that Donna and I were able to either sit together and chat - particularly the time Donna spent with my youngest son, instantly noticeable was a mutual connection between them - or communicate via email, were always fun, interesting, and offered a kindred spirit of souls living with and working in the Autism field.

Donna offered not only mutually complementary insights, but her wonderfully cheeky sense of humour in sharing her understanding, empathy, knowledge and unselfish willingness to devote her time to those who either sought her advice/counsel or those fortunate enough too to have her delight in sharing one on one chat time and friendship with her. 

Donna's gifts of writing, paintings and indelible knowledge of the Autism Spectrum; beautiful soul and passions, will leave this world with an irreplaceable legacy of vitally important knowledge and wisdom. 

Donna is survived by her soulmate and perfect-match Chris. They were so blessed to be each other's partner. Bless you Chris. xx

Will miss you Donna xxx

Monday, January 11, 2016

Autism - Obsessions, or are they Passions?

Autism and Obsessions, or are they Passions?
(Louise Page 2009)



           Could what we, as parents, witness in our autistic children as obsessions, really be the indicator of passions and innate talents?

          Could these passionate interests become an area of expertise for the autistic person who is now a child and soon to grow towards adulthood? 

          Should we discourage what appear to be obsessions by ‘training' for reduced behaviours in these areas and hope to influence the child to become more generalized (normalized) in their daily behaviours?

          If we do aim to divert energies away from such passions, could we be halting or stifling that serious endeavor of intrigue and a natural gift towards nurturing a potential genius in a given ‘area' or natural inclination of interests? If not genius in potential, perhaps a natural progressive and intensely personal interest which could open up a field of exploration (career wise?) in the future?

          Could that intrigue with lineated toys; the spinning top; curiosity with the shape of things; what sounds things make; the feel of an object; the rhythm ‘read' in music; bugs in the garden; the weather patterns; the lure of the sea; the patterns, colours and feel of paint on a canvas; the beautiful pitch of a constantly practiced singing voice; relentlessly digging holes in the backyard after the discovery of an intriguing ‘object' in the first hole dug; the repetitive plucking of the strings of a violin........and so on..., be the beginning of an amazing future in design, physics, writing music scores, entomology, meteorology, art, opera, oceanography, archeology, concert violin and so on......?

          Just as we should assist our autistic children with daily living, educational, social, behavioural skills for example, to enable them to achieve a quality, healthy, happy and safe life experience (serving to enhance their important rightful place and acceptance in this world); which could mean temporarily and momentarily diverting their attention from those passionate interests to acquire or improve on such skills.

          Passions are not a sign of bad behaviours or necessarily responding anxiously and negatively to a stimulus. Though a retreat into a passionate area of interest may be in response to stresses or anxiety; a place of familiarity and comfort to escape unwanted, undesired or overwhelming stimulus.


        
          The intensity of this retreat can be detrimental to the individual's wellbeing if, for
example, the passion involves potentially risky physical activity. One example of this, which I can use to explain what I mean here is – an experience of a young autistic man, whose passion is building, repairing and riding motorbikes. One day he felt so sensorally overloaded with various stressors, that he jumped on his motorbike and went flat-out down the local freeway; endangering his life and that of others. Luckily he returned home safely. Fortunately too, he realized that such an action was not the best choice of response to his anxieties.

          Another example, is where a young autistic boy, who had a fascination with all things to do with planes and helicopters, felt upset with those around him at school one day. So upon hearing and seeing a large plane fly above him, he decided to follow it – completely absorbed with its' sound and movement. He crossed roads without looking for traffic and ended up in the next town. Fortunately he stopped in his tracks, not moving, when it had gone out of sight and sound. Also, and most fortunate of all, a kind passer-by recognized his school uniform; phoned the school and the police, and this young lad was returned to the safety of his school and relieved mother.

          Most passionate interests are usually safe in nature and an incredibly important and intrinsic element in an autistic person's life.

          We should not confuse them (passions) with 'poor' behaviours which need ‘rectifying' or dulling for what may be considered ‘normalization'. Behaviours which may be deemed injurious, unsafe or unhealthy, for example, need to be addressed with the autistic person/child. Discovering the cause of the anxieties or concerns which produce such responses/behaviours must be ascertained and the appropriate assistance provided to the autistic person to reduce or eliminate them, for the quality of life.

          Healthy passions can be nurtured along with providing a balanced life skill set of conditions and experiences to assist our autistic children grow and prosper in this sometimes busy, confusing, unforgiving and overwhelming world.

Saturday, February 21, 2015

Rosie King on Youtube



Monday, April 1, 2013

Autism Awareness




"Colourful People in Heart Shape"
by Pixtawan


 Autism Awareness

I’ve been discussing the topic of “Autism Awareness” with some other mums recently, and one of the most impassioned phrases, which became the core of our conversation was – “How can we help with strengthening the message for all?”

We all, as parents and carers of our children on the Spectrum, hope that the awareness and understanding of the Autism Spectrum will become ‘universal’ one day, and that complete acceptance and respect of their beingness will just be.

But for this to be realized, the compassion, empathy and soulfulness of those who may struggle with concepts of understanding the uniqueness and individuality inherent in humanity, needs to be captured in a way that information offered for understanding and accepting those on the Spectrum is provided in a non-confronting, non-aggressive way so as to glean positive interest and a willingness to listen and observe.

Some people are innocently unaware of the dynamics of the Autism Spectrum and may keenly listen to information offered, and yet there are others who may feel that if a subject has nothing to do with their lives, they are not interested. This may be upsetting for some who are living with or associated with the Spectrum – but realistically, as the old saying goes – “You can’t lead a horse to water”.  Not everyone will, unfortunately, want to listen to the important ‘awareness’ messages, but many others will.

One thing which I feel is important, when advocating for and aiming to create awareness of the Autism Spectrum to family, friends and the wider community, one must be vigilant in being sensitive to autistic persons awareness that they are being spoken about and support rallied on their behalf. We must ‘work’ with our autistic friends and family members and always keep in mind the dignity, rights and feelings of the person on the Spectrum. Sometimes exposing, for example, a behaviour challenge of an autistic child/teen/adult to the public eye may end up being a vision of humiliation for the autistic person.
There are some videos and exposés illustrating perceived typical behaviours (etc.) of a person on the Autism Spectrum which are beautifully, respectfully and honourably presented for others to learn about Autism from. But, there are also some ‘illustrations’ (through video etc.) which are not in the same category of dignity and respect, which, when the autistic person realizes (becomes aware) of such an ‘exposé’, this may be a source of humiliation and disdain. There can sometimes be a very fine line between getting the ‘awareness’ message out there and combining such with respecting the dignity of the person on the Spectrum.

There are many wonderful organizations, groups, individuals and persons on the Spectrum doing a fine job in creating and increasing awareness of the Spectrum. I hope I am perceived as being one of these persons who supports and advocates in such a positive manner. After all, the Autism Spectrum is very dear to my heart and an indelible part of my own family life.    

Some, who may not have reached a level of understanding, empathy and awareness which we may hope for, may be ones who perhaps have not experienced a relationship with a person on the Spectrum; whose own life experiences may not have availed them of a willingness to be open to embracing the differences of their fellow ‘man’; whose ‘belief system’ may not allow the inclusion of others who are different to or oppose what they perceive as ‘normal’ or acceptable to them; or whose fear of difference holds them back from breaking down such self-held barriers and allowing themselves to be free to learn and be open to new ideas and information, and/or to experience reciprocal communication with another.

For those who do warmly and openly embrace difference (differing abilities) and welcome learning about what others can show them, teach them and enrich their understanding of the infinite and diverse skills abounding in this world all peoples can offer, will be the ones who don’t need ‘convincing’ or impressions made upon them of the uniqueness of another. Such persons may seek to learn more and/or help others to be open to gaining such knowledge and understanding. Some may become concerted advocates for those who deserve greater understanding and support.

So, if I may, I’d like to offer a ‘list’ below of some personal elements which need to be inherent in one if they are to be truly able and willing to experience awareness, acceptance and understanding of the Autism Spectrum and the wonderful persons who live with such as a unique part of their lives.

To be AWARE, UNDERSTAND and ACCEPT one is able to offer another
Recognition of differing abilities and acknowledgement
Respect of ones being
Recognition of individuality
Acceptance of ones right to be and value to self and others
Belief that each of us has a place in this world
Willingness to communicate and respond in a respectful manner
See no barriers between communicating souls (religious, cultural, ethnicity, age, sex [M/F] etc.)
Recognize human rights and right to be unique

To whom we promote AWARENESS of the Autism Spectrum;
Some or many will see;
Some or many will see and hear;
Some or many will, see, hear and listen;
Some or many will, see, hear, listen and care;
Some or many will see, hear, listen, care and embrace;
Some or many will see, hear, listen, care, embrace and want to learn more.

Blessings and peace to all



Thursday, November 29, 2012

Inspirational poem for Autism





Whilst reflecting on some words a teen on the Spectrum mentioned to me some time ago, I decided in a quiet moment to jot down this poem.
The teenager was relating to me how she was striving to strengthen her individuality and wanted ‘others’ to see that she was keen to take hold of being the ‘captain’ of her ship as it sailed into the future. She felt she needed others (though some well meaning) to take a step back and let her express her true self.
It also relates to how some people were presuming to ‘know’ her by what they had read in books about Autism/Aspergers.
The poem’s not perfect, but it basically describes this young lady’s feelings about some of her desires for her future.

I AM ME

My uniqueness is not found in a book by another
The story of “ME” may take a lifetime to uncover

I’ll paint the pictures to illustrate my meaning
The words I’ll write ‘ll be from my souls’ dreaming

Each of my days, a new chapter to pen
Not ‘till I’m finished, will my story end.

© Louise Page 2012

Thursday, October 11, 2012

New Book - Teenagers and Autism

photo copyright of Slavenko Vukasovic - Dreamstime.com



New Book

It has been a while since I have posted on this blog, but hopefully those are interested in my books and other writings/articles may be also interested in my current pursuit of writing a new book regarding teenagers on the Spectrum.

This book will encompass the relationships, emotions, anxieties, communication challenges, and so many other things, which can be experienced by a teen on the Spectrum.  The content of the book and its messages are also very relevant to the parent/carer of a teen on the Spectrum, and will be very much along the lines of a ‘team-effort’ in living life together and navigating life’s challenges, as well as all the many positives.

Once I have waded through my notes (back to 2011), finally pieced together the many chapters and published this book, I will post another note here regarding how and where it can be purchased by those who are interested.

I have several patient and professional persons in Australia and internationally (one a U.S. university professor, teachers, parents and some wonderful individuals (adults on the Spectrum) waiting for me to get this project ‘on-the-road’. Due to experiencing an energy-sapping physical health condition since the middle of 2011 and (and now getting my health gradually back to ‘normal’), I have had to, up until now, put my attention to completing this book on ‘hold’.  I am not practicing as a professional counsellor currently (due to my recent health concern) and have chosen to concentrate on writing for a while. I may resume practicing in 2013.

Special mention

Recently, Donna Williams, an internationally known, highly successful and respected writer/author, artist, singer-song-writer and Autism expert (Donna is on the Spectrum herself), endorsed me (via LinkedIn) for my professionalism, abilities and understanding in the field of Autism/Youth. I am truly honoured to have Donna endorse my work and experience in this field and am humbled by this recognition.   


Monday, March 7, 2011

Articles on HubPages



If you are seeking more articles by me regarding the Autism Spectrum, please go to HubPages.
Many of the articles I will be writing can be found here. My pen name on HubPages is La Papillon.